Holding Space in Grief

I’m doing something a bit different with this post — in fact, quite a bit different.

Before you decide whether to watch the short video, you should know that I don’t talk about business during this one.

Last Saturday, my wife of nearly 42 years, Kathy, died unexpectedly. I love her deeply. As you might imagine, I began grieving immediately.

Without setting out to think about it, I started noticing something about space — a topic I’ve been writing about recently. I began to see how important space can be in the grieving process. Not as a shortcut. Not as a way to move past the pain. But as a different way to live with it.

There’s a hole when someone dies. Our instinct is often to close it up. What I’m exploring instead is what it means to let that space remain — and in doing so, to keep the person alive in a real way. Not as a polished memory, but as the full human they were.

If that sounds interesting or potentially helpful, I invite you to watch the video.

If not, come back next week, and I promise I’ll be focused on working in organizations.

Thank you for being here.

And if you’ve found something that helps you stay connected to someone you’ve lost, I’d be grateful to hear what that has been. Please comment on LinkedIn, where others can join the conversation.

Rick MaurerAbout the Author, Rick Maurer

Rick Maurer helps leaders turn major changes into opportunities to engage people and strengthen commitment. His work has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, The Economist, and Fortune. He is the author of several books on change and leadership.

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